The Happiness Myths That Make Us Miserable

' Real happiness is cheap enough, yet how dearly we pay for its counterfeit'

Nearly all of us buy into what I call the myths of happiness—beliefs that certain adult achievements (marriage, kids, jobs, wealth) will make us forever happy and that certain adult failures or adversities (health problems, divorce, financial struggles) will make us forever unhappy. Overwhelming research, however, reveals that there is no magic formula for happiness and no sure course toward misery. Rather than bringing lasting happiness or misery in themselves, major life moments and crisis points can be opportunities for renewal, growth, or meaningful change, It's how you greet these moments that really matter ”

The door to happiness is widely opened

"The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts"

letting go of what you think your life is supposed to be and living every moment as if it was your last day ,is what I term as happiness, the quality of our thoughts, how we see things and embrace situations. Things needn't go your way always, embrace whatever life has given you and live fully void of feeling incomplete and that you deserve more than what you already have, contentment an antidote to hostility and bitterness, be content with what you've got and prayed for the best.

Connecting happiness with goals and materialism

"I’ll Be Happy When I’m Married to the Right Person"

One of the most pervasive happiness myths is the notion that we’ll be happy when we find that perfect romantic partner—when we say “I do.” The false promise is not that , marriage won’t make us happy. For the great majority of individuals, it will. The problem is that marriage—even when initially perfectly satisfying—will not make us as intensely happy (or for as long) as we believe it will. Indeed, studies show that a happiness boost from marriage lasts an average of only two years. Unfortunately, when those two years are up and fulfilling our goal to find the ideal partner hasn’t made us as happy as we expected, we often feel there must be something wrong with us or we must be the only ones to feel this way.

"I’ll Be Happy When I’m Rich and Successful"

Many of us fervently believe that, if we’re not happy now, we’ll be happy when we’ve finally made it—when we have reached a certain level of prosperity and success. However, when that happiness proves elusive or short-lived, we weather mixed emotions, letdown, and even depression. When we’ve achieved—at least on paper—much of what we have always wanted to achieve, life can become dull and even empty. There is little around the corner to look forward to. Many prosperous and successful individuals don’t understand this natural process of adaptation and may come to the conclusion that they need even more money to be truly happy. They do not realize that the key to buying happiness is not in how successful we are, but perhaps what we do with our success; it’s not how high our income is, but how we allocate it.

"I Can’t Be Happy When My Relationship Has Fallen Apart"

When a committed relationship falls apart, our reaction is often supersized. Fear of divorce is especially acute: We feel that we can never be happy again, that our life as we know it is now over. However, people are remarkably resilient, and research shows that the low point in happiness occurs a couple of years before the divorce. As soon as four years after the break of a troubled marriage, people are significantly happier than they ever had been during the union.

Life is so precious to be unhappy

“Stop behaving as if your life was connected to someone, without whom you can not live”

Most at times it weird how people would act as if their lives were connected to someone, the absence of whom it is impossible to live. We feel we have to be with that someone to be the happy and the whole picture of happiness is about that someone. Many of us are positive that not having a partner would make us miserable forever. However, multiple studies show that single people are no less happy than married ones and that singles have been found to enjoy great happiness and meaning in other relationships and pursuits. Unfortunately, believing in this myth may be toxic: Not recognizing the power of resilience, may lead us to settle for a wrong partner. We all got a life to live, and a purpose, which should not be wasted thinking is only meaningful with the presence of a special someone, we must respect each other space and know when you need someone and when you have to concentrate on building ourselves

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Find out were joy resides and give it a voice far beyond singing, for to miss the joy is to miss it all.

There is no way to happiness, happiness is the way, stop feeling sorry for yourself and you would be happy. Real happiness is waking up to find out you do not need to impress anyone but yourself, happiness would not come to those who do not appreciate what they've got already. Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, worn or consumed, happiness is the experience of living every minute with love, grace, contentment, and gratitude. It is enjoying the little things in life, happiness is not made ready but it is made with your own conscious actions. An unhappy person is a jealous and bitter one, be happy today, keep a smile always.....

It has always been your favorite me, Samiratu Mohammed...

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